Re: Abortion
Posted: Tue Aug 03, 2010 1:19 am
Hi BrandonsMum,
I see what you are saying. Hence I assume you and your partner are doing everything possible to avoid getting pregnant. My husband and I decided that because our age, one child was enough, partly because of the economy and partly because we felt we simply would not have the energy to raise two children at the same time. So I got an inter utirine device and my husband got a esterilization, which in 99.9 secure. If a child is conceived after all that, he or she most be the next Einstein or something like similar .
Do I agree with you? Not really. May be it is because my daughter is a bit of an unespexted miracle that arrived after I had been told I could not have children. I am foreigner in this country, no family, very few friends, none close, no support system but hubby, who was out of a job for six month until recently. And we had a sort of baby scare at the time (it turned out I'm entering my pre-menopausical years, so my periods dissapear for months) and as hard as things seemed to be the idea of abortion never crossed my mind. Although I'm not religious, I do think things happen for a reason. My great-grandmother was one of those peasant women I told you about who was raped by the hacienda owner. Had she had an abortion then, I would not be here today. As simple as that. Her desicion to keep and love the baby has translated into a big family, with mostly good peole (hey, every one has it's dark sheep) that have somehow contributed to make this a more interesting and better world.
That said, I do feel I have express myself a bit too judgemental and I gues there are cases that may call for a termination. Not sure if the "happy mummy" is one of them. What garantees happines? A job, a good salary, having domestic help, being rich? If that was the case there would not be unhappy rich people -and there are plenty.That children are trying there is not doubt. But there are so many things our there to drive us crazy: partners, bosses, relatives, so-called-friends, politicians, and usually the solution to deal with them is not death.
May be is a cultural thing, but where I come from, children are precious, the driving force not only for a woman or a man, but for families and whole communities; the figure of the mother is revered as one that not only produces children, but produces good citizens and good human beings. The single mother is a common feature, specially in the poorer areas, and yes, abortion, although illegal, does occur. But mostly is done by woman who literally have no food to feed their children -or rich girls with "modern" mentalities who use it as contraception. And yet you see woman working to the bone to give their children a better life, and more often than not, this sacrifice is retribuited by loving adult-children, that take care of their elderly parents. Are relationships perfect? Of course not. There are screams (Latinos can be very loud), and tears and silences and do some break up forever. But even with their imprefection, the parent-child relationship is of paramount importance in my country of origen.
So I guess this is one of those themes where we most agree to disagree. At least I gor it out of my chest, and for that, I'm greatful.
I see what you are saying. Hence I assume you and your partner are doing everything possible to avoid getting pregnant. My husband and I decided that because our age, one child was enough, partly because of the economy and partly because we felt we simply would not have the energy to raise two children at the same time. So I got an inter utirine device and my husband got a esterilization, which in 99.9 secure. If a child is conceived after all that, he or she most be the next Einstein or something like similar .
Do I agree with you? Not really. May be it is because my daughter is a bit of an unespexted miracle that arrived after I had been told I could not have children. I am foreigner in this country, no family, very few friends, none close, no support system but hubby, who was out of a job for six month until recently. And we had a sort of baby scare at the time (it turned out I'm entering my pre-menopausical years, so my periods dissapear for months) and as hard as things seemed to be the idea of abortion never crossed my mind. Although I'm not religious, I do think things happen for a reason. My great-grandmother was one of those peasant women I told you about who was raped by the hacienda owner. Had she had an abortion then, I would not be here today. As simple as that. Her desicion to keep and love the baby has translated into a big family, with mostly good peole (hey, every one has it's dark sheep) that have somehow contributed to make this a more interesting and better world.
That said, I do feel I have express myself a bit too judgemental and I gues there are cases that may call for a termination. Not sure if the "happy mummy" is one of them. What garantees happines? A job, a good salary, having domestic help, being rich? If that was the case there would not be unhappy rich people -and there are plenty.That children are trying there is not doubt. But there are so many things our there to drive us crazy: partners, bosses, relatives, so-called-friends, politicians, and usually the solution to deal with them is not death.
May be is a cultural thing, but where I come from, children are precious, the driving force not only for a woman or a man, but for families and whole communities; the figure of the mother is revered as one that not only produces children, but produces good citizens and good human beings. The single mother is a common feature, specially in the poorer areas, and yes, abortion, although illegal, does occur. But mostly is done by woman who literally have no food to feed their children -or rich girls with "modern" mentalities who use it as contraception. And yet you see woman working to the bone to give their children a better life, and more often than not, this sacrifice is retribuited by loving adult-children, that take care of their elderly parents. Are relationships perfect? Of course not. There are screams (Latinos can be very loud), and tears and silences and do some break up forever. But even with their imprefection, the parent-child relationship is of paramount importance in my country of origen.
So I guess this is one of those themes where we most agree to disagree. At least I gor it out of my chest, and for that, I'm greatful.