When a friend or loved one experiences a loss, we find ourselves rallying around them, offering kind words, cups of tea and as much support as we possibly can. Witnessing someone you care about struggling through grief is hard, and it can be difficult to know what to say. Once all the tea has been drunk, and the obvious words of condolences have been uttered, what do you do next?
It’s only natural to draw a blank and worry about saying the wrong thing, although it’s worth remembering that simply being present during this difficult period will make things easier for them. If you’re wondering what you can do to help a grieving friend, then read on for some intuitive suggestions.
A sympathy gift
While many friends and family may offer flowers, cards and kind words, offering your friend a sympathy gift during this difficult time is a gesture of support and kindness. This silver feather ring as a sympathy gift can hold several meanings. Not only is it a gesture of compassion directly from you, but these adjustable rings, designed with angels and the angelic realm in mind, can also bring them comfort and serve as a reminder of the loved one they have lost, giving them the opportunity to keep them close, not just now but for the rest of their lives. If you’ve lost a mutual friend, then wearing a memorial ring in unison can bring you closer together.
Listen – don’t always talk
While it can be difficult to know what to say to someone who is grieving, attempting to fill the silence by talking about anything that comes to your mind, or talking about the person they’ve lost should be avoided. Of course, your friend might be grateful for some normality, but remember to match the amount of talking you do, with the equivalent amount of listening. Whether they want to talk or not, just be there and don’t be afraid of silence.
Offer hands-on help
Grief affects us all in different ways. Some people may struggle to function and neglect basic self-care. Others may be too busy trying to support their young children that they have little time to care about anything else. Whatever the situation, offering practical help during this period will be appreciated and give them a chance to focus on family and their own emotions. Whether you offer to walk their dog, cook meals for them, clean the house, pick up prescriptions, run errands or help with childcare, step up to support them.
Check in on them, regularly
Whether your friend needs assistance or not, checking in on them regularly will give you peace of mind and remind them that they’re not alone. A quick video call or message, bringing them a coffee from their favourite café… these little check-ins will mean a lot to your friend and give them the support they need during this painful time.
Supporting your friend through this difficult period isn’t easy. So, consider the steps above to show your compassion and support, even if you don’t know what to say.