It’s a heartbreaking situation to be dealing with a terminal illness, for everyone involved. The key steps to take in light of this should be supportive and positive, working on getting everything in order and fulfilling any important wishes and wants.
If you’re feeling lost or uncertain right now, here are some ways you can work to support a loved one with a terminal illness.
- Think About What They Want (Not What You Want)
It can be extremely difficult for everyone involved when dealing with a terminal illness, and you’re naturally going to want to do everything you can to help. This can easily turn into you wanting to control the situation and make it easier for your loved one.
However, it’s important to remember that it’s what they want which counts the most, even if you don’t agree with it or if it’s hard for you to work against your natural instincts.
Be sure to be open with discussions about what they want, even if it’s the simplest things on an everyday basis, so you can always make sure you’re acting in their best interests.
- Don’t Make Everything About the Illness
It’s easy to want to spend your final time together treating your loved one as though they are made of glass, and having everything be a reminder of the illness and how much time they might have left. It’s important to use your remaining time in a positive way, instead of constant reminders of what’s to come.
Your loved one may not appreciate being reminded every second that they are ill, or maybe they want to discuss anything other than their illness. Be sure to be sensitive to their needs, and if you have to talk about them or their illness, do so discreetly and not in front of them.
- Find Support For Yourself, Too
It will be emotionally overwhelming to support a loved one in this way, as well as physically if you are assisting them with daily needs. It’s key to not overdo it and take time to care for yourself, too. If you are the only one supporting your loved one, see if other family members will help to give you a day off, or allow you to get a break or a good night’s sleep.
Also, be sure to have your own support system in place if you are struggling with impending grief and your emotional wellbeing.
- Help Them to Get Their Affairs in Order
There will be plenty to plan for your loved one’s end of life, and it may be overwhelming for them to do alone. You should support them in the important areas, such as making a will and arranging a funeral. Compassionate funeral services like Exit Here are always available for discussions and planning, and you could involve your loved one in the planning to make sure that everything is as they would want it.
- Support Them With Their Bucket List
There might be many things that your loved one wants to see and do with the time they have left. Some of these things they may not be able to do alone, or they may just want some company. Be sure to discuss with them any desires they have and how you can help them to fulfil their bucket list.